By Prince Dima
After the traditional rites have taken place, the bride is made to stay behind and never move to the groom’s house until their Church wedding be completed, if not, they are committing sin against the Lord. Lord?
The traditional rites have been completed, bride price paid; the bride has taken Palmwine to show her husband, people ate and drank; parents blessed them, but the man is never recognized as her husband until church wedding is completed. She must wear wedding gown, the man must wear suit whether he could afford it or not, he must borrow. He must please the society. Ashoebi is there. Bridal shower, heavy expenses that surround bachelor’s night, hotel lodging of all and sundry must be carried out for the world to see the wedding is complete. A ga-etinyere officiating minister something for booth.
Arrant rubbish. I mean, white supremacists denting the already union taken place.
Should I tell you that when you are done with your traditional marriage, going again for church wedding is like marrying second time. You are doing same thing.
If you want to follow oyibo style, go for it; if you want to follow traditional way, go for it. If you want to do both, it’s your decision. I am not against it. Who am I to dictate for you?
But…
How many oyibo do traditional marriage, drink Palmwine to show the husband, pronounce husband and wife by their elders after which bride price has been paid? They only do white wedding right? That is their culture. They do just one and simplify the whole thing.
But here, we do ours; not satisfied, but opt for others. We observe our culture, we observe cultures of others to feel validated. The reason we have greater number of single men who aren’t ready to settle down until they are old. The reason is not because they don’t want to marry, but the expenses incurred in traditional marriage and white wedding. They want to make the money. Money is flying, no wing to chase it. This has pushed many people into fraudulent activities. Those who want to feel belong rather lie to a lady, saying what he’s not to get her trapped in marriage.
Because of the white supremacy syndrome we are pursuing and venerating, heavy loads are on our shoulders, economy keep depreciating, we are getting old before we settle down..we think that 30+ years is the normal age for a man to marry. No. We are pushing load on our heads.
When you’re married traditionally, you are married. Be happy. Go in and eat your ivedị. It’s yours. Don’t allow societal interest destroy you. You are legally married everywhere.
If you choose church wedding, fine; but remember you must settle the family of the bride, tradition must be respected only that hosting parties, cooking, spending extravagantly will be curb. But you must settle ndị ụmụnna, no way bride price won’t be paid.
Court wedding too is okay. You can marry in the court, invite some persons, have some fun, it’s official. Go and eat your thing…ọọ nke gị.
But here you are…
thinking of how to marry in the court, Marry traditionally and church wedding, you keep aging, aging and aging…when you are old like leftover ụgụ, you look for someone anyhow anyhow to have a child… You are 54 years, still having children of 2 years. How long will you stay on earth and have your children enjoy parental upbringing?
Africans be wise for once. Parents make things easier for your children not when one idiotic gold digger finally impregnate her out of wedlock you beg to sponsor the wedding to remove shame from your face; but prior to this, you were over demanding from someone coming for your daughters; weighing his pockets and who was his father in Abuja.
Don’t mind the society. Stop borrowing money for your wedding. Stop begging friends for money so that you marry. Budget for it, do as your hand can carry, invite as you can feed. There is marriage after wedding. Those you tried to please will still come here on Facebook and drag you, how your marriage never last like 40 seconds ivedị.
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