He don’t satisfy Me Sexually, His Culture Forbid Cheating What Should I Do? – Married Woman seek advises

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Am 23yrs, married with 2 kids and my hubby(36years) is not a cheat at all and loves me so much , but he is not a sex type ,he can hadly satisfy me , and I feel horny always esp after having my second child, it feels like I need his dick to always feel my hole, but he is not always in the mood and most times he avoids me or make us quarrel so that he doesn’t have sex with me .. I now feel embarrassed becos am always the one meeting him for sex and even sometimes I do feel horny even during mensuration too ..I do try to control my self most often , but once I lay on the bed to sleep , the feeling of having sex become intense to the point that I will start masturbating till I cum so that I can sleep in peace , if I don’t have sex or masturbate b4 going to bed , I will always dream of having sex in the dream .. pls I need help cos its frustrating me … I’ve prayed , fasted and still fasting presently because of this issue , i even met a man of God but instead the pastor asked me to come to him that he will satisfy my urge for sex, but I ran away,?hmmm..I’ve even gone to the hospital because of it but my doctor says it’s normal and it’s my hormones that is making me feel that way becos of childbirth ..And it’s worse becos my hubby just gets too tired from work and he is always complaining and says he is getting irritated by the way am always demanding him for sex and I should focus on something else, meanwhile I work from morning and close work by4pm honestly I do try as much as I can to remove my mind from it but once I lay down to sleep or rest , I start to feel it again.. I hear of women saying that their husband cheats because they can’t give their hubby sex , but mine is the other way round , I noticed his low sex drive when we were dating and we have been working on it and no improvement and the doctor says that it’s his nature , Even one day I bought Jaruma’s aphrodisiacs for hubby but he refused to take it and said that I want to kill him, but after our marriage he became much more uninterested in sex, sometimes once in 2months or 3months, and he doesn’t last for more than 4mins and it feels like he just put me in the mood and goes to bed and said if am not OK that I should masturbate , I’ve told him to try sucking my pussy but he says that he is not comfortable with it and he has never tried it b4, he doesn’t even wanna try new things with me 🤦🏽‍♀️ he is just ok with the regular😩.. I even met someone else who wanted to date me not knowing that am married with kids , I deeply had interest in the guy and wanted him but I can’t becos my hubby village has a custom that forbids women from cheating and it comes with consequences that affects the man, woman or kids.. he spends so much on me and the kids and also gift me luxury gifts but it’s still can occupy that emptiness I feel .. pls am so frustrated and i feel like leaving my marriage, I’ve complained to the family members and all he says is that if I can’t manage him like that I should leave, i also told my dad about it and he has talked to my hubby about it but my hubby just ignored him , don’t know how to help my self , pls I need advice because am loosing it , this thing has seriously affected my self esteem, cos am very pretty, sexy and attractive , you won’t even know am married or have kids at all , am also very hard working and neat ..but my hubby isn’t trynna help me
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