Don’t Waste Your Times

In a relationship, in marriages, in business, in politics and in just about anything; do your best, but don’t waste your time.

I am a young man, but I have seen a lot of betrayals, I have encountered people without scruples, I have had dealings with people who feel that wisdom consists in exploiting the next person. But I have also learnt, though the very hard way, not to waste my time.

I have been heartbroken more times than I can count, expecting people to at least recognize that I am genuine, but watching them get bought over by insincere people. But, with time, I have learnt how useless it is not to waste my time, trying to prove myself, my sincerity and my loyalty.

I have been foolish intentionally many times, just to make a partnership, a relationship, a business work, but I would always realize that it is a mistake trying to prove a point. Just give your best, and strut on. Posterity will have a way of proving you true, even if you are dead.

Many times, I have had to take up personalities that are not mine, just to be accepted, but shortly, I found myself, disgraced, because I lost my true self and couldn’t fit into the borrowed personality. So, I just understand that it is best not to waste your time, being anyone else but yourself.

I will be 37 in a few weeks, and in these years, if there is nothing else I have learnt, I have learnt that the most insecure manipulators are the biggest emotional blackmailers. They cheat you, yet they are the ones who do and say everything in an attempt to make you feel guilty. In all, I have learnt that it’s a waste of time trying to explain anything.

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You may, like me, have wondered if you are truly the Devil they paint you as, yet, you search your conscience and understand that you have done your best. That you may have made some mistakes along the line, but in all, your intentions were genuine and harmless. Don’t waste your time blaming yourself for being true. Stay true, if you have the mental toughness, to.

You may have denied yourself some leisure, some joy, trying to make the next person happy. Yet, the person for whom you have suffered these deprivations would only be happy when you take a lot more pains. I don’t know what God thinks about it, I don’t even know if God thinks about it, but just take your time, enjoy yourself, and be happy. I think that’s the most you can get out of this crazy life. Don’t waste your time trying to be the good guy, who never cheated, who never hurt anyone. They will eventually feel cheated and feel hurt.

The evil friends would always look out for those things you cherish most, and try to blackmail you with them. Love what you love, do the best you can, but never waste your time proving it.

Do not waste your time proving how loyal you can be. Those who deserve your loyalty don’t need extraordinary efforts from you to know you are loyal. Those who don’t deserve your loyalty won’t take note, even if you sacrifice your blood to prove loyalty.

Love yourself first, then, you can love the next person and many more people. Don’t love someone more than you love yourself, but you can, if he deserves it, love someone as much as you love yourself. That’s even what the Bible told me, when I read it last. Don’t waste your time trying to prove to someone that you could love him more than yourself. At the end, he/she will see you as the fool.

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I don’t what it is you are wasting your time on at this moment. But stop, if it’s a waste of time. Time is the only thing we have, when we waste it, we have nothing else to live for.

It’s few minutes to morning where I am, don’t waste your time mourning. Live for as long as you are alive. Life is beautiful.

Cheers to a beautiful night.

Onwuasoanya FCC Jones
March 2021.

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